Question: I'm 20 and I want a baby. My life is way too boring ... Your opinion?

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Answer #1:

It takes a lot to raise a baby.
If you can't rely on your boyfriend for support, then chances are you'll be stuck taking care of a baby and regret ever getting pregnant (jk - ending up with that situation).
Do what you gotta do first - accomplish what you want in life and THEN think about having a baby.

Answer #2:

I'm in mid twenties and I guess I'm in my midlife crisis as well. I'm too depressed to typed out my age, but I understand your feelings. I really want a couple of kids (two little girls or a girl and a boy) to raise and watch them grow up; to give me some sort of purpose in my existence. I don't have a boyfriend and I'm not in a steady relationship. I don't have a steady full time job, or even a career to be honest. I'm not too crazy about my job, but I do enjoy it enough to stay with it. I just need to keep working hard so I can move up the ladder for better jobs within my organization or with another one.

I would say wait on the kiddies and get your life in order. Save up for that home and that way you'll have a safe and loving place to raise your future family. Who cares about getting married by 30 these days. People these days are waiting later in life for marriage (if it ever happens) and kids. There's no real rush for either one. A cousin of mine didn't give birth to her first child until she was 39 years old.

I thought being a graphic designer was fun?! What are your passions/interests? If I could start over again, I would have studied biotechnology to be a technician or enrolled in a secretarial school. I'm not willing to pay another cent on schooling as of now.

Answer #3:

Try to do things (during me-time) that you like, say on weekends. Do productive tasks to make the depression go away.

and when u r sure you r no longer depresed, you will then be able to raqtionalise theings and conclude whether you are ready for a baby or not. Don't just rush into having a baby out of depressiono otherwise u wont be able to take care of the baby well.

Answer #4:

You don't have the faintest idea how boring it is to feed a baby every 3 hours, change them every 4 hours, bath them every day, change their clothes 3-4 times a day when they throw up, and so on, do you? Looking after a baby is pretty much the definition of doing nothing. On and on, over and over, 24/7...and you can't stop doing nothing, not even for half a day or for long enough to get a decent night's sleep.

Watch them grow? Go outside and watch the grass grow for a couple of days. Babies grow much slower than that.

Answer #5:

Hi,

Life is generally boring if you get stuck in a routine with nothing new happening. A routine needs to be broken so the mind can keep active wouldn't you agree? I mean it is the mind that tells you things are boring so that mindset is what you have to get right first.

You are young and your boyfriend even younger, you don't know what to do in life so taking that into consideration I would definately advise that you don't have children just yet. Why do I say this?

Firstly, children bring you a very restricted lifestyle and there are alot of things you won't be able to do once you are a mother. I would decide where your life is going before parenthood because in a few years you will probably know what you want out of life, but then you may not be able to do it because you have a child that you have to dedicate your life to.

Secondly, you say your life is boring and hopefully you'll agree that is because of routine. Unfortunately if you aren't ready for routine, then you aren't ready for baby. Bringing up children is a routine that you can't escape from, and probably a routine which will last for 20 years...the age you are now.

You suggest that you have plenty of money, so be adventurous....use it to see a bit of the world while you only have yourself to worry about. Take a year out and go travelling. That's the one big thing I wish I had done more of before i had my first daughter when I was 24.

Just remember life is full of change if you let it be, take risks and see where they lead to, see how exciting it is when one decision leads to the next chapter of your life. Step out of your comfort zone, just do things that you never thought you would do. Don't think negatively, that is what alot of people do because they are afraid...afraid things might go wrong if they take the risk, have you noticed there are very few people who actually say "what if it goes right"?

I took the risk of quitting my electrical business in the UK, selling up and moving to Australia where I am now an Internet Marketer and you know what...it was just because one night I'd had enough and just thought to myself...my life needs to change, and it has.

Positive Thoughts = Positive Actions = Positive Results

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